Conquering Our Fears

When we were small, we searched with no fear. We sought out the different, the surprising, the unusual. We treasured every new sensation, idea and person we met.

How different that is for those who have learned to stay in the familiar nest, not reaching out, not going to new places nor communicating to strangers.

How does a person change from the baby actively searching for new experiences to the old person who avoids surprises, preferring instead boring sameness? Perhaps if we knew what caused this, we could avoid it or even reverse it.

Well, we say, we were hurt by the burning stove or cut on the broken glass. We were betrayed by ones we loved or, worse yet, ridiculed by others.

Yes, those things occurred, no doubt. Yet, if any one of us were to look around, I’d wager that the pain, betrayal or ridicule is no longer present in our environment, only in our mind.

How often have you imagined an upcoming event with dread. Certain that some past ill would befall you, only to find that it never came to pass. You enjoyed yourself instead.

We tend to paint the future using pictures of our past. And when we’ve grown conservative or become wary, we are painting that future with only the bad parts of our past.

Most people don’t know this, but you can change what pictures and experiences guide you. Try this for a few days:

1. Don’t read the paper–or at least don’t read the news–read all the ads or sports scores you wish.
2. Don’t watch or listen to the news. It’s almost all bad.
3. Each day recall three things you intended to accomplish and did.
4. Deliberately smile when you meet five people each day.

See if this doesn’t change your outlook.

When you expect good things and accept whatever comes your way with interest, you will be the master of your life.

One of my favorite definitions of “greatness” is the ability to bring joy to others and results for yourself.   Peter Glickman – Author of the Master Cleanse

Note From Picture Lady
Twenty Five Years Ago a friend challenged us to go without TV for a month
– well we did and we felt so much better we have not watched ever since.

I don’t regret it as I get my news from the Internet – my favored source is Policy Mic

I do admit though I enjoy watching TV when I visit my sister and my kids.
It is something to look forward to. But then they also never watch the news.

Do you know that while I do know all about 9/11 – have researched it thoroughly and even written about it I did not see those towers coming down.
Catastrophe and the typical “bad news” that is the daily fare is in no way essential to your sense of well being.

I think that knowing what is going on is vital – but why have bad pictures thrust on you?

Let me issue the same challenge to you. Try no TV for a month.
Then come back selectively.
Some films and stories are real fun although they soak up time when
you could be creating things.
Quote for the Week

 To play safe, I prefer to accept only one type of power: the power of art over trash, the triumph of magic over the brute. 

Vladimir Naboko

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